Use It… or LOSE It!

All of us have talents that we were born with. The only problem is that most of us aren’t using the talents and gifts that we do have. There are talents that require more development to accomplish purpose and find destiny.

Parents can detect talents in their children from a young age. However, if those talents are not nurtured at that age, then the child may not recognize it when they get to adulthood.   Many talented people who have no one to inspire and encourage them will just wither and become part of the social culture of failures.

Talents that are evoked and recognized stand to bring out a new person who has a zest for life. However, it takes a specially trained coach or mentor to get a talented individual to see themselves using their talents for the greater good.

Talents are used to form partnerships, ventures and fulfilled visions. It is through talents and gifts that people dream big dreams. Never forsake the talent that you have. It might just be the very thing you can use to uplift someone or let them see things in a new perspective.
Some people have the gift of encouraging, writing, administrative duties, mentoring, coaching, giving, and doing business. Whatever your talents and gifts, you can use them to make money and get you into places that you would not have dreamed possible.

People die without using their talents. There are so many wasted talents that are buried in the cemetery. Will you be counted among those? If you use your talents wisely, then you will be saved from such disconcerting thoughts and will not lose out on your chance to make a contribution to society before your time comes. You might not want to fall in that category of wasting your talents, but it is possible, if you don’t make a move now.

So the next step for you is to identify your talents. Use the help of a mentor or coach if you are unable to do it on your own. A coach will sit down with you and brainstorm with you. You will be asked, “What are your strengths and weaknesses?” Be honest with your answer so you can move to the next step. You may also be asked, “What do you enjoy doing the most?” If you have a hobby maybe or something that makes your heart sing with joy, then you have a winner talent. The fact that you love something enough to do it without getting paid for it is a talent that can lead you through doors that would seem impossible without your talent.

The coach will help you to make a list of things that you are skilled in doing. You will be able to assess how comfortable you are with each and the one that excites you the most and that you can effectively accomplish on your own, is the one that will be your primary focus. Your next step is to improve that talent. It may take going to classes, doing part time jobs using the talent or practicing on your own.

Start using your talents, do not be afraid if it takes time to develop them, but you are the master of your talents and will be accountable to the one who gave them to you.

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To really attract what you want in life, you must be willing to receive it; to know you deserve it and be open to accept the good into your life with joy and appreciation.

Resolving conflicting beliefs and fears is critical to being able to fully manifest your desires. If you find yourself spinning your wheels, that’s a sign that you have a belief that is in emotional conflict with your desire. Ignoring the conflict will only cause more frustration and stress with yourself and the situation you are struggling with. Here’s where your courage to dig deeper into self-discover will pay off in spades. And get help when you need it.

Each morning I begin my day with the following statement: “Hmmm, What shall I create today?” I love imagining the possibilities.

How about you? What will you create today?

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Saw this and had to share – some incredible insights!

When setting goals for yourself, you want to make sure that you keep them within reach.  In other words, don’t set your goals so high that you can’t achieve them.  There is nothing more upsetting then never being able to accomplish the things you want out of life.  Instead, break your goals into measurable ones. For instance, let’s say that you have to write a 150-page book in a month. Instead of getting frustrated and believing that you can’t get it done, break down the task. So, on week one you’ll research. On week two you’ll write 50 pages, on week three you will write 50 more and on week four you’ll write 50 more and then you’ll be finished.

Here are some additional guidelines to follow when you are setting your goals.

1.         Visualize success.  You must visualize yourself accomplishing the goal.  By being able to see the end result in your eye, you will do what it takes to get the job done.  By visualizing the end, you will feel powerful and can make your vision a reality. By seeing it and then believing it, your goal will be much easier to accomplish.

2.         Feel Motivated.  If you do not feel motivated to accomplish your goals then you might not achieve them.  By choosing goals that you truly want to accomplish, you can and will succeed. Your drive and determination will propel you forward even when you think that you can’t.

3.         Stay focused.  When you face an obstacle, rely on strength and ability to get through it. Focus on the end result.  Stretch and challenge yourself at all times. Go beyond your limits.

4.         Bask in your glory. Take a look at those things you accomplished last year and feel proud that you can achieve greatness. Then set those past goals against future ones.  For instance, let’s say that last year you finished a 10 mile race. This year plan to finish a 13 mile one.  By making your end result better than before and trusting that you can do it again, you’ll be successful.

5.         Enlist support.   To truly accomplish your goals, enlist the help of others. Ask them for help and let your friends, family and acquaintances keep you on task.

Having goals is a wonderful tool to accomplishing greatness because it inspires and motivates you. By following the above tips, you can accomplish your goals one step at a time and you’ll be closer to being the successful person that your mind sees and believes in.

THE GIFT OF GIVING TO YOURSELF

Most people find more joy in giving than receiving. Unfortunately, while they continuously give they manage to neglect themselves. Put your name on the top of your shopping list this year and receive 6 free things from the Santa in you…

1. GOOD HEALTH is something that we all need. If you are a person who doesn’t feel it is important to take care of yourself, eventually you will start to complain that you have an ache here and an ache there. Do not let that happen, get up and get moving! As your body ages, it requires more TLC, more vitamins, definitely more attention. Start by modifying your diet; find the good in vegetables, fruits and nuts. Get off of the couch and go for a nice brisk walk. Exercise. Do something that will get that heart muscle pumping and those body parts jumping.

2. PEACE OF MIND starts by thinking positive thoughts. Strengthen your mind; read positive literature, get a journal to write down your innermost thoughts. You can always go back to read them and notice the changes, as you change. Give yourself time away from the demands of the day, meditate for 10 minutes to free your mind. Breathe. Surround yourself with people who can inspire you to be better.

3. HAPPINESS: know what it truly is and not just what it looks like. Be honest and steadfast with your belief that self-satisfaction will bring you internal peace, love and happiness. It is something that a person can not give you or steal from you. Smile. Try to imagine what this world would be like, if happiness was contagious.

4. FRIENDSHIP has a way of making you feel that you are never alone. As a child, you may have had more than enough close, favorite or best friends, and to be popular was more important than to be respected. Now as a mature adult, your values may have changed and so did the number of friends; down to just a few important people in your life that you can trust. Everyone needs a friend – that buddy to talk to during the good and bad times. Relate. The best way to keep a good friend, is to be a good friend.

5. FAITH is having confidence that things will change. While experiencing the “ups and downs” of life, never give up and continue to move forward. Believe. Keep your focus and never let fear stop you from reaching your goals.

6. LOVE comes from within. You must love yourself first in order to love another. No matter if it is a man, woman, child or your most adorable pet, never deny yourself the opportunity to love or to be loved. It is a feeling you will never forget. Enjoy. Be good to yourself.

The Gift of Life is the most special thing that money can not buy.

Hiring a coach is the best thing anyone could for both their business and their own individual development. Almost everyone is trying to get to a better place of either success in business or personal improvement, an awareness of self and a balanced life.  The coach will assist in looking at where you currently are and give you pointers on ways to grow into where you want to be.

A coach helps to validate who you are and find solutions and possible meaning in what you are experiencing. Hiring a coach gives you an edge into reaching your destined goal. You are able to have someone who will hold you accountable for your actions. Unbiased feedback and continued motivation are some of the things that a coach brings to the relationship whether business or personal.

Trained coaches will be able to help any business client to leverage their ability to increase their bottom line, attract new business, live a stress-free life, reduce stress, gain clarity, help the prospective entrepreneur to start a business, help to improve employee relationships and add more value to customer service

Most business owners want to increase their productivity and a good coach will help to target goals, mission statements, and the company’s master plan.  A personal coach is equipped to uplift and provide an atmosphere of trust and belief in self.

You will need to hire a coach for his/her expert communication skills; one who will train you on how to communicate with your clients and with others. A coach will teach you how to be a better listener and how implement proven solutions to achieve the best results. 

When you hire a coach, you have the advantage of getting rid of old habits, reach your goals faster, get training in the life design process and determine the action steps you need to take for your success. Hiring a coach puts you in the driver’s seat of self-awareness to be able to identify your fears and negative conceptions that keep you back. You will be able to have a specific strategy to manage your inner thoughts and to be confident in the things that you believe that you can accomplish.

Some people will hire a coach to help them to manage their time. When they work with a coach, they will be able to become more efficient and effective in whatever they do in business or in their personal lives. The coach provides great tools, advise and techniques that are proven to get results. 

A professional coach is an experienced individual who is committed to helping business owners to take their business to the next level. Together both you and your coach will develop a solid partnership that will help you to shift your focus toward your goals over a specific period of time.  Awaken your passion, fulfill your purpose and have a joy-filled life by hiring a coach to hold your hand and give you that little push that you may need to reach success.

Is it a requirement that you be a good person to  be successful? I suppose not, but that also depends on your definition of what it means to be successful. Most people think of success in only the sense of making  a lot of money. I personally feel that money is a by-product of success, rather than something that defines it.

Success, in a nutshell, is having your act together in all walks of life. It means having a solid personal life in which  you positively impact people around you. It means having professional pursuits  that are rewarding and fulfilling. What ties these two parts of your life more so than anything else? The answer lies in your core values.

Core values  are our internal conscience and reflect both the way we were brought up and  simply how we view our place in the world. Examples of core values would include  honesty, caring about the well-being of others, solid work ethic, and appreciation that your actions reflect on who you are.

It’s important to address a couple of prevailing opinions that affect the discussion of values,  as they relate to success. First, there’s the image of the arrogant but rich  individual who treats those around them terribly. It could be falsely construed  that success is not based upon being a good person by viewing a person like  this.

Just remember, being successful and being rich aren’t necessarily  the same thing. When  the day is done, money is nice and having satisfaction that you are an important  contributor to society are two different things. Instead of asking yourself, “How much money do I have?”, ask instead, “How many lives has my successful lifestyle affected?” You can positively impact the world and still have money because your values are guiding you down the road of life!

Another common misconception is that nice people finish last. I  don’t think that could be further from the truth. First of all, many successful people have great core values and are just great people. Second, just because  you’re a great person doesn’t mean that success is just going to fall into your lap! You still have to work for it and do the right things to make success happen. Great core values may just accelerate the process, once you are heading  down the road towards success.

In conclusion, your core values reflect who you are. Your pursuit of success should build upon your values almost exclusively. Pursuits that stray away from your values are going to meet greater challenges because they go against the grain of who you are as a person. When  you remain true to who you are, you must still strive for success but it will be  more rewarding when you achieve it!

We all go through some kind of conflict in our lives whether it is starting it ourselves or being confronted with it by someone else. Conflict and confrontation are quite similar, but none of them are a good way to come to solutions that are amicable. Usually when confronted with a conflict, it ends in an argument if you don’t know how to discuss things and are not a good communicator.

To get rid of conflict, you have to be a person who loves peace and know when to walk away from certain situations. You have to be a realist and have the fortitude to face the conflict if is faces you.

You also have to be the kind of person who knows when to walk away from conflict. You don’t want to be a confrontational person because you will always be in a conflict. Some people thrive on conflict, but it eats away at the core of who you are and makes you a different person. You don’t want to be involved in such negative behavior.

Surround yourself with positive people and you will gain more confidence and knowledge to be able to realize when there is going to be a conflict and try to avoid it. Be friendly to others because those who are friendly will attract friendly people and not people who thrive on conflict.

Keep yourself busy with positive things and it will keep you away from conflict. If you do encounter conflict in your life, be the first to seek peace. Step up to the plate and start a dialogue with the other person that will allow you to take responsibility of your own action in the situation and voice your opinion and feelings about how you both can move forward.

Try to improve your own personality to reflect positivity and the other person will see it. You attract things in your life by how others perceive you, but more importantly how you perceive yourself. You cannot control how others see you, but you can control how you see yourself.

Writing a letter is a good way of communicating in the time of conflict. On paper, you get to express your thoughts in a more peaceful and thoughtful way than exchanging angry words during a conflict. When you write a letter to the other party, it shows them that you really want to make amends and that you are trying to make it right with them. The ball is now in their court to make the next move.

When there is a conflict, don’t try to solve it right away because emotions might get in the way of all those involved and can make it even worse than it was before. Give it time and let the fuse of anger linger before making any move towards reconciliation or dialogue.

Concentrate on yourself and what you need to change about “you.” If you change and not point the finger on others, then you will be at peace with yourself and what others think won’t affect you as much.